From Midlife Crisis to Midlife Thriving

From Midlife Crisis to Midlife Thriving

Do you feel like losing track of your inner life compass? 

Do you feel disconnected from your life mission? With no energy or enthusiasm any more? 

Are you questioning your present life and have no clue about he next steps? 

Welcome to…

So many things happen in your body, in your mind and even in the stars, by the 40s and 50s that is difficult to cope with everything by yourself and without an instruction manual.

The first thing I want to tell you is that YOU ARE NOT ALONE; that confusion and crisis are part of life. This is the way you grow and transform. 

And that is beautiful.

As life is a journey…

Have you ever thought how would it be

to have a map? 

Life is a very individual experience but there are some common patterns. For example, we all share some astrological cycles that happen around our 40s and 50s, like the Uranus opposition at the beginning of the 40s or the Chiron return between the age of 46 and 52. I can tell you from experience that understanding how the energy of the stars challenges us and, at the same time, supports our growth can make a huge difference. 

Then there is the importance of mindset. This is huge. A lot of people become a victim of circumstances. I can feel you if you are there. 

Especially as you grow older, it is easy to feel a victim of the changes happening in your body and mind. However that becomes a path of suffering and disempowerment.

There is another option: becoming the heroin of your own story. It requires more energy at the beginning, to counteract inertia, but it takes you through a more powerful path in which you are the creator of your own story. A path in which you use the challenges to grow and transform into a new version of yourself. A better version of yourself.

I started this blog talking about some important transits like Uranus opposition or Chiron return. They mark key points for your evolution. And they do it by bringing mess and chaos into your life so you can leave behind your old self and transform into a new self.

Menopause and perimenopause show up like chaos in your body-mind. 

And, again, YOU choose wether you want to see the hormonal changes, the celestial transits, as something negative or as an exciting journey. 

You have a choice. 

The following exercise is inspired in one of my favourite quotes this year. I learnt if from my coach in a session. 

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Please, send me you comments and feelings. 

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Be wise, wild & relaxed.

Susana GB

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Are your emotions running the show?

Are your emotions running the show?

Could you imagine life without emotions? 

Of course not. 

Emotions are life’s spice. 

However, one of the complaints I get more often from women in their 40´s and 50´s is how difficult it is living through an emotional rollercoaster that many times seems out of control.

Of course, not every woman experiences it and there are many levels to it. But I would like to share with you several possible reasons for the emotional body to get out of whack during perimenopause and menopause. And some things we can do to soften the intensity and enjoy the ride. 

 

1. THE CHEMISTRY PIECE: HORMONES & NEUROTRANSMITTERS.

We can experience and understand our body/mind at many  different levels. One of them is the chemistry level. 

It is nothing new that chemical molecules, like hormones and neurotransmitters, determine our emotional state. And therefore, it is not surprising that all the hormonal changes that start taking place during perimenopause have an impact on our mood. 

 

Sexual hormones secretion drops in this phase of a woman’s life. Let’s see the effect of this decrease in the activity of neurotransmitters associated with how we feel.

 

  • Estrogen is related to the activity of serotonin (responsible for feelings of happiness) and dopamine (regulates pleasure, motivation and learning). Its decrease can be the reason for mood swings and feelings of sadness, apathy and even depression. 

  • Progesterone decrease is related to increasing anxiety. The effect is double. On one hand, the amount of GABA, a neurotransmitter with anti-anxiety effects, decreases. On the other hand, glutamate, a neurotransmitter that stimulates brain activity increases. High concentrations of glutamate are correlated with anxiety. 

  • Testosterone is a hormone responsible for our sense of well-being; it gives us confidence, energy and the ability to withstand stress. Since testosterone levels decline during menopause, this can explain some symptoms, including low confidence, motivation, fatigue and more vulnerability to stressing factors.

  • We should add, as I exposed in the previous blog, that cortisol increases as sexual hormones decrease. When stress hormones (like cortisol) increase, your body gets ready to fight or flight.  Your body will be more tense. You will be feeling survival mode emotions like anger, fear,.. And you will not be at all in the mood for emotional connection or intimacy.

2. NON DIGESTED PAST EXPERIENCES.

Every experience create an emotional imprint. 

 

Menopause is a pivotal time for women and it is very likely that experiences you have not fully processed make a reappearance at this time. 

 

Even if you have done extensive work on yourself, this is a very special time that brings to the surface what is there to cleanse, polish and refine so you can become the best version of yourself ever. This is the true gift of this sacred transition. 

 

And if you have not done work on yourself yet. No worries. It is never too late to start and this is a very auspicious time to do so. 

3. ASTROLOGY OF MIDDLE AGE. 

There are some important Astrological transits that happen around 40´s and 50´s that can deeply affect our emotional state. 

 

Transits are not inherently good or bad. Although they can be challenging at times, specially if you do not understand what is going on and why you are facing some particular external events or internal experiences. 

 

To have a sense of what is happening makes a difference as you can move along with the available energies and receive the gifts of deep transformation. 

I don’t want overwhelming you with all this information. All the contrary. Understanding what is happening gives you the tools to create a wonderful life during our 40´s and 50´s. 

Sharing all the tools and practices that we can use to release emotional pressure and even enjoy the ride, will require some time together. I want to give you some hints. They are mostly based in life style changes that promote the secretion of neurotransmitters for joy and well-being:

  • Moderate exercise and being in the sun are easy ways to increase serotonin and feeling happier. 
  • Yoga practice increases the anti-anxiety neurotransmitter called GABA.
  • Touch, massage, sex, being with other women… all this generated oxytocin “the bonding hormone” that counterbalance the damaging effects of an excess cortisol. 
  • Have a community of support that truly sees you and understand what you are going through. This is one of the most powerful medicines from women circles.
  • Diet has a lot to say when we talk about hormones and moods. Just one tip: reduce as much as possible the intake of sugar, alcohol and coffee.
  • Revelations from the stars… a great time to dive into the information your astral chart has specifically for you.

And, of course, if you feel overwhelmed ask for help. You do not have to move through this by yourself.

I hope you have enjoyed this information.

I leave you some links below that might interest you. 

And I will be really happy to receive your comments and sensations in  Instagram 

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Be wise, wild & relaxed

Susana GB

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Mercury retrograde. RE-evaluating.

Mercury retrograde. RE-evaluating.

On September 27th, Mercury entered retrograde.

Mercury rules our mental activity and this cause that, until October 18th when it will enter direct again, our mind turns 180 degrees to look inside.  As a consequence, we can feel the external world slowing down or.. that we slow down regarding the movement of the external world. Typically, it is considered a time of difficult communications, in which the advice is not closing deals, signing contracts or planning big trips. It is not surprising that the most important social media platforms collapsed during the algid moment of its retrogradation in Libra, the sign of personal relationships. 

In Esoteric Astrology, it is considered that Mercury retrograde has a more subtle and profound effect. The inner world is enriched by the effect of our gaze, of our awareness. Inside we find sensations, emotions, ideas, projects… that some time inhabited the most superficial areas of our mind but, for any reasons, they were not expressed.  They are like unattended children desperate for a caress. 

To this Mercury “backwards” journey  and to the presence of several planets in Libra, have joined in full synchrony, a challenge initiated in our essential oil community @esenciasdelatierra.yl by my friend @ireneantonymas with a very special and potent mixed of oils called RELEASE and the  Navaratri sadahana, the 9 nights of Goddess Durga, that started yesterday.

So, my journal is overwhelmed these days with all the revelations or forgotten emotions and cornered sensations that fight for seeing the light . Spontaneous awakenings during the day. Intense dreams during the night. Piecing things together. A feeling of finally leaving some repetitive themes behind.  

Another effect of Mercury retrograde is getting back projects left half way through,  ideas and intentions that were forgotten in the business of the inmediate. 

 

What was in your “New Year resolution” and got lost in the way?  

 

Where did you imagine yourself at this moment in life and where are you? 

 

Which is the missing piece of the puzzle to create the life you desire? 

This is a great moment to decide to get deeper into yourself. 

 Inside the apparent confusion and chaos of Mercury retrograde, a Universe of possibilities exist to  

re-evaluate

 

 re-set

 

re-start

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Both if you want to grow in a community or if you prefer to do a more individual process.

 

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KRAMA: from chaos into order

KRAMA: from chaos into order

Contemplating the energy that brings this new lunar cycle in Virgo, there is a word that is reverberating in my mind. 

KRAMA

Krama is a Sanskrit term that gets translated as order. Also as sequence. Something that is done step by step.

In Tantric texts, krama is the power that Consciousness uses to manifest from the apparent chaos into a relative order of the manifested Universe. 

Everything in the Universe happens in a sequence. From the development of a foetus in the uterus, to the blooming of a plant, the succession of day and night, to the protein synthesis inside your cells following, step by step, the instructions encoded in your DNA.

Krama is the process that, step by step, takes us from point A to point B, from the creative impulso to the completion of manifestation.

Every creative process mimics the manifestation oft he Universe described but the Tantrikas.  Think about the creation of a text. At first there is nothingness. Or, we could say, the undifferentiated totality. Suddenly flashes of concepts appear that become ideas and thoughts. These start to get entangled among them with certain coherence creating arguments that become, for example, this blog. 

It is interesting to appreciate how the rest of the infinite information/matter/energy (as you would like to call it) starts to dissolve as insignificant at that moment, in the same way the pieces of granite disappear  as the artist creates an sculpture. 

This is another Virgo trait: discernment that creates order and organisation, that gives priority to certain information over the rest, that decides what it stays and what it goes, that design the most effective sequence. 

Organisation, order, sequence, discernment.

Virgo energy is sometimes thought of as boring or uninteresting but nothing further from the truth. Look, for instance,  the beauty of a fractal.  A clear consequence of order and sequentiality.

It is really easy to take this concepts to the field of yoga through the meaning of sadhana.  

Sadhana is a sucesión and repetition of sequences that you practice day after day.  I am not thinking only in asana sequences but in the sacred sequence in any practice that you receive from a wisdom lineage, that has being designed in the best way possible to bring about a particular result.  

One of my teachers, Paul Muller-Ortega, says that  “Yoga is not about faith. It is all about practice. When you feel the results of the practice nobody needs to convince you of anything. You just know”  

Virgo is the energy of routine and repetition, of the mundane daily acts. Those that can be the most sacred actions.

Yes, I see this sign of the Zodiac, as a sing of the sacred. I will explain it through the meaning of something I love: ritual.

What is a ritual but a set of sequences of mundane actions orchestrated with precision that turn into sacred just for belonging to that particular sequence?  

All this energies and concepts are fundamental in my life and my teaching and there are always present in my courses.

  • 13 Lunas – 13 Mudras is our way to workship the dancing sequence of the Moon through the signs to synch with the available energy in the sky. 
  • The power of order and sequence are the foundation of my clases so they can be transformative and safe
  • In trainings I share techniques and resources to use discernment in the creation and teaching of clases to serve students fully (another important aspect of Virgo)  

In this lunar cycle I invite you to contemplate:  

  • ¿Qué secuencias son importantes en tu vida? 
  • ¿Cómo transformas lo mundano en ritual? 
  • ¿Cuál es el efecto de la repetición? ¿De la sadhana? 

 

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Full Moon in Aquarius:  me & the collective

Full Moon in Aquarius: me & the collective

FULL MOON in AQUARIUS  2020 

 Every day the stars gift us with their wisdom. But there are inflection points in the cycles, as it happens with Full Moons and New Moons. Full Moon is always a conversation between opposites that creates polarity

 Moon in Aquarius, the sign of the collective, the sign of the new futuristic vision, the sign of rebellion and freedom, the sign of humanism.  It is not a coincidence that is in this Moon when hindus celebrate the holiday of  Raksha Bandha. A celebration of fraternal bonds, a celebration of friendship.  

Sun in Leo, the sign of identity, the sign of enjoying life as it is, the sign of the ego, the sense of I. 

In this Full Moon, the energy is polarised between the sense of I and the community. Lots of food for the mind in these times.  Where is the border between my freedom and other´s?  Where are my personal needs and where the needs of the society that I belong to? Can we evolve towards growth as humanity with a virgin individuality or is always necessary a sacrifice of my identity? Is this sacrifice such from a spiritual point of view or is it a blessing? 

No doubt the Full Moon is illuminating the answers to these and many other questions… and not always are the ones we want to hear. Specially with Uranus in Taurus,  in strong tension with the Sun and the Moon. Disruptive energy that is walking with us since long time giving us this familiar feeling already that the ground is moving below our feet, that what we once considered  stable is not any more, and mostly we do not want it to be, and that we are moving inevitably towards something totally new that we are still to know, to create. 

Exciting times… no doubt. 

Specially if we follow the direction signalled by the stars, It is the direction of Scorpio. The direction of the depths, the direction of the shadows.

Do not stay at the surface.

Observe YOURself. Investigate YOURself. Ask YOURself.  

Make all the necessary questions about YOURSELF  (Leo) so the WHOLE (Aquarius) can find the answers that propel us to the next state of evolution.  

Aquarius is the sign of Astrology. If you feel the call to investigate YOURself through your astral chart, one of the most personalised methods that can help you finding what is your role in all this, you have the information  HERE about my Astrological Coaching. 

N a m a s t e 

An inflection point: bringing collective shadow into light

An inflection point: bringing collective shadow into light

We live times of great responsibility as the human race. You do not need to be very sensitive to feel that. If a movie scriptwriter had designed the stage of a sky in which the planets describe radical change, he could not have done better: a Lunar eclipse in Cancer, Urano  in Taurus squaring the Sun and the powerful and famous conjunction Saturn-Pluto in Capricorn on January 12th. 

Yes, these days bring particular intensity. And everything in the sky talks about big changes, radical transformations. On one hand there is a feeling of vertigo, like at the edge of a roller coaster; on the other hand, it is so exciting to be alive in this moment of history…  

Lets go step by step. 

A Lunar Eclipse happens when the Earth gets in between the Sun and the Moon. The darkness we see is nothing but the projected shadow of the Earth over the surface of the Moon.  In the same way, Lunar eclipses, make personal and collective “shadows” visible. This eclipse allows us to see everything we do not like, in ourselves and also at the level of society and the system,  

Cancer is the sign of emotions, home and the mother. Friday January 10th is a day to be at home, to feel, to self-care, to mother yourself. Also to observe which are the underlying patterns that limit us. We are clearly seeing how our actions hace consuenes over our bit “home” that is the Mother Earth. A lunar eclipse is a good time to let go, to cleanse. Give yourself a week for the energy to settle before taking drastic decisions. 

What do I have to let go?  

 

Lots have been said about the Saturn-Pluto conjunction that will take place on January 12th. It is importante for several reasons.  It happens about  every 34-36 years and nothing remains the same afterwards. Saturn and Pluto are two heavy weights  and, when together, their energy leaves a trace. They mark times of crisis. Times of  transformation. Times of growth and maturity. Saturn represents structures, the establishment.  Pluto is Kali, is Shiva: the energy that dissolves without doubt everything that does not serve anymore. To add on, the Sun and Mercury join the party.

Saturn in Capricorn also represent success. Pluto is the shadow, the collective subconscious. With this conjunction the shadow of success  comes into light. What we have turn into model of personal success is bringing as a secondary effect, the very familiar experience of stress and anxiety, The success of a whole civilisation and the welfare society has taken us to an unsustainable way of life for the planet. During the past years we have become aware of the things they do not work, that we are paying an excessive price for. The things we do not want. Unsustainable energies. Obsolete institutions. Governs that seem from another century novel. Incapacity to take right and effective decisions.  And still, there is such a great resistance to change: it is not an easy task to stop the inertia of the great system. 

Pluto has arrived to push into important changes that would be unthinkable of a few years ago, especially related to great structures, governs, corporations (Saturn). If we use well the available energy, Pluto will help to dissolve the old, as Saturn, as it enters in the innovative Aquarius in 2021, will impulse the creation of new systems, with the help of optimistic and abundant Jupiter.  Maharishi Mahesh Yogi used to say that we are in the new dawn of humanity, at the end of the Kali Yuga, the age of confusion and lack of dharma, but already feeling the new colours in the sky before seeing the first rays of the Sun. Moments of uncertainty, sure, but also of hope.  

At a personal level, how you live this moment depends on how this planets affect your natal chart, and also on how you have been doing the needed work, external and internally. Saturn in Capricorn demands a double portion of discipline, perseverance, constancy. Pluto is change, transformation, dissolution, brutal honesty to see ourselves in our totality. This is a year of intense work and the new created structures and patterns will  remain in time as a big foundation

Think about the energy of these two planets as a teacher or a father telling you from their wisdom “better not like this” 

Uranus in Taurus. Taurus is the stability of the Earth; Uranus, the revolution, the instability.  Taurus is the known; Uranus, the unknown, what is radically different. We are cleaning the basement… One of the shadows of this aspect is how technology and radiation (Urano) are disturbing our calm and that of Mother Earth. Are we still in time to change this? I don’t know. But for sure Uranus is also inviting us to find innovative, imaginative, revolutionary solutions for the future. Solutions that requiere us to get out of our comfort zone. Uranus in Taurus is also helping to create new forms for the material: new economical systems, new forms of money…

On Friday 10th, Full Moon in Cancer will be opposing the big planetary conjunction in Capricorn, creating a dialogue between our more emotional and human side and the one that is more concerned in manifestation and profits.  

In spite of the tension, the Moon will be happy to be in her favourite sign and to illuminate this process with the love we need so much.

 

Some tips for an intense January 2020 

  • This Full Moon on Friday, contemplate the balance between your family or personal life and your professional life, the energy that you use in listening to your emotions versus the energy you dedicate to your work and your projects.
  • Make sure to mother yourself this weekend and have a light schedule
  • Listen to your  emotions but do not act impulsively over them 
  • If you have not created your sankalpa (intention) for the year, do it soon. A clear intention will give your time direction and will help you to see which are the “structures” that need to dissolve to create new foundations. 
  • Discipline. You know where you need it, 
  • Neptune, the planet of dreams, consciousness and unconditional love gives release to the intensity of this moment. It is not by chance that humanity turns towards spirituality. Give yourself every day the necessary pleasure fo meditation and contemplation.  

 

Namaste & my best wishes for 2020  

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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